i lost my virginity when i was 18. i regret it with all my heart. the problem is with you guys who have already lost their virginity it is supposed to be a mature growing up thing. the double standard for us girls is that we are supposed to save ourselves for marriage. men and women think differently because we were taught differently. women when they lose their virginity are declared bad, wicked, whore. for men it is a gold medal for a woman it is a banner saying we are bad. i was intoxitcated when i lost my virginity. if i wasn't drinking i probably wouldn't have gone thru with it. i felt ashamed and he felt like he won something. i lost. morality today really sucks. there are 12 year olds having sex. (they're curious) it doesn't make it right. Why do you boys keep looking for virgins. so you can get another badge? i often wondered. i am single today. my husband cheated on me after 17 years of marriage. i was in another relationship for 10 years that ended in him cheating on me. i gave up on men. i live a life of celebacy. I enjoyed sex very much. it is hard for me to stay celebate but i promised myself i would. when you find that special woman, respect her, love her, and stay faithful to her. there is no better way to find happiness in marriage. share, have a 50/50 relationship. give and take for both. stay with your beliefs. love can be forever.