How to avoid bad people

**chinee** · 01-10-2011, 01:31 PM

I have a sister -in- law who has been very bad to me. She always do something bad just to ruin my life. I dont know but I cant take it anymore. I dont want to see here but she's part of the family.

**vencasand** · 01-10-2011, 02:36 PM

i have to spend christmas with my ex husband and the woman he left me for!!!! it is okay. i just stay out of her way. i have been divorced for 24 years but every year i spend with them because we meet at my oldest girls home. i just avoid her. i am polite but distant. that is what you have to do. be polite but distant. don't allow her to spoil your family get togethers. there is ususally always one person in the family that is a trouble maker. ignore her. stick with ian and your husband or go to the people you like. don't say anything bad about her. just deal with it quietly. everyone knows what she is. don't let her upset you. it really isn't worth it. live everyday to it's fullest. don't let someone interfere with your happiness.

**y34963** · 01-10-2011, 05:20 PM

Chinee, my mother-in-law is like that. She has tried to ruin my marriage from the day I got married. She has done that with all of her children. I know it is hard to deal with family like that because we have no choice but to see them on occasion. I do what Brenda does, just ignore her. If you say anything to her that is exactly what she wants so don't give in. Just stay with the people you enjoy being around.

**sonali** · 09-30-2011, 09:19 AM

Ignore them... Stick around with people you are comfortable with.

**mck123** · 10-07-2011, 08:18 AM

Don't pay attention to bad people because they unnecessarily spoil your mood.

**exprt143** · 11-04-2011, 07:05 AM

by considering them as a invisible person like as they are not near about me.

**skinlover** · 03-12-2012, 11:48 AM

Most of my boyfriend's family tried to split us up.

it's a horrible experience.
And a lot harder when he expects you to get on with them, even a year later I still don't quite know what to do about the situation but I love my boyfriend to bits and wouldn't let anybody split us up!

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**pepsimax** · 03-16-2012, 07:37 AM

Some mums will never accept any women for the sons as 'they are not good enough!'
It's an awful situation to find yourself in.

**vencasand** · 03-16-2012, 01:25 PM

lucy,just hang in there. be yourself. all that matters is the way your boyfriend cares about you. i have a but here, do not take abuse from them if they are being verbally abusive walk away, tell your mate if he does nothing to take up for you, drop him, if he doesn't stand up for you now, he never will and he is not worthy of you. ps sorry if i come across a little mean, but i have seen so many marriages go thru hell when the family comes first before the spouse. best of luck. if you need to talk, you can pm me here anytime.

**skinlover** · 03-16-2012, 01:45 PM

Thank you guys, it is a difficult situation though, his Mum died when he was 8, his Mum and Dad split up shortly before aswell. So he lived with his Aunty when we met (still not sure why) she didn't like me at all, infact hated me, and his brother and his girlfriend. So we have nothing to do with them. He's moved out now and lives with family friends and it's a lot better now.
Speaking of standing up for me though, I can't think he ever has, he's the kind of boy that can't say a bad word about anybody (even though he was treated like rubbish growing up) so he won't argue with his family cause he's scared of losing any more of them, so I just step back.
It does hurt and I often moan at him about it, but what can you do...

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